If you are a parent and are interested in improvement, here are Today’s Tips for Disciplining Your Children Successfully. Discipline is important regardless of the age of the child. It is a major part of how we teach our children behavioral lessons, and the skills they will need to succeed in our world of today. We are teaching our children skills and values that they need to function in their lives.
Today’s Tips for Disciplining Your Children Successfully
Observe your children; assess their assets; find their vulnerabilities. Get to know their creativity. Watch their behaviors in different situations, when they play alone, or when they are with friends. Note the behaviors that you believe are problems or could become problems. It is not a bad idea to write these down. You could use this list to prioritize the problems.
Limit the number of changes you make.
If you are setting new limits and boundaries, or getting ready to change them, start with one or two of the simplest behavioral problems. It will be easier to focus on the solutions. In this way, you will be able to test your discipline ideas. If your solution does not produce the results you expected, it may not be the fault of the child, but the method was not suited for this child or not suited for the situation. This is where the list comes in handy. Keep track of the solutions that were ineffective, and those that were effective. You will not want to be wasting time repeating an ineffective method. Continue to try methods until you find several that have been successful at modifying unwanted behaviors.
Explain everything in behavior terms, step-by-step.
For instance, let us say that your child refuses to take out the garbage, which is a chore that you have already assigned. Make certain that you have explained exactly what must be done to complete this chore/task. If you say, ‘take out the garbage,’ the child may leave the garbage bag on the back steps untied. This can even happen with teens. Explain everything including the consequences for not finishing the task, and the rewards for completing the task. Humans take action for rewards, whether intrinsic or more quantifiable. Oh, and never mind the eye rolling, don’t have your expectations include perfect compliance or desire.
Example of a consequence and a reward.
Here is one example of discipline ideas for a consequence and reward. If ‘Johnny’ does not take out the garbage in the time allotted there will be no video games that night. If he completes this task, he will be allowed to play his video games and he can stay up 15 minutes longer tonight. To be effective a task or rule must be clearly defined with consequences, rewards and or extended privileges. The child will begin to learn, over time, that cooperation with the family has benefits to him/her and everyone. This method also eliminates the need for anger on the part of the parents and reduces stress for everyone.
Steer clear of physical punishment or shouting at your child.
The outcome will not be pretty. You will be angry and stressed and your child may be angry, scared, confused, and stressed. There is usually no change in behavior, or children learn to hide and/or manipulate.
Follow through is essential.
One of the strongest discipline ideas is to remember to follow through; follow through; follow through; follow through. I cannot stress this enough. No follow through means no behavior change. The child learns that if he/she waits long enough, you will give up or forget
Set, define, and monitor privileges.
Removing privileges is another of the discipline ideas. If you temporarily remove a privilege as a consequence for not completing a task or following a rule, do not give in. This will undo everything that you have been trying to accomplish. The exception to this is if you have reacted in anger and the consequence is unwarranted. Do not react negatively to tantrums and pleading. When the time has ended for the removal of the privilege, return it promptly. Do not rely on the child to be honest and ‘take’ the privileges back. You are the parent. You set the consequence and you enforce the consequence through to the end. If you eliminate this last step, again you will be teaching the child that if he/she waits and watches, they can take back the privileges early. Teaching sneaky behavior will be trouble in the future.
Praise is also essential.
Last, but not least by any means, if your child is cooperative in action, compliant with the rules, and seems to work through each disappointment, ‘that child deserves praise.’ Giving praise is one of the discipline ideas that are very powerful. Praise the child for even completing part of a task. Here is another ‘do not.’ Do not give praise for praise sake. Praise only that which your child has completed or learned. The important result is that your child will appreciate the recognition and will be delighted. He/she just may start looking for more praise, appreciation, and recognition. Chances are the lesson has been learned well. Do not be surprised if the child slips sometime in the future. He/she is a child after all.
Discipline, of Hugs? Those are your discipline tips for today. Try them out and try the results. Search for more techniques via the Internet, professionals, and your librarian. I trust that these Tips for Disciplining Your Children Successfully have been helpful. For more ideas to help with disciplining children, search this website. The search box is located just below the banner, in the black bar to the right.